Children struggling with chaotic family lives often know few words for the feelings they have and have fewer ways of expressing their feelings in an appropriate manner. Knowing how to help them talk about the feelings attached to neglect, abuse, rejection, separation, change of care givers is important if they are to be able to resolve the impact of what they have experienced.

Emotional intelligence can be developed successfully through education and through play. encourage children to talk about their feelings without judging them invite children to talk about events in their lives by asking them how they feel about them choose games and toys that help children identify their emotions, express feelings appropriately and hear what others are trying to say about their feelings.